" I got bullied by a 5 year old "

My blog entry is by a "guest writer" today....  an exerp from a chat conversation:

Bill took all 3 kids with him and Will to the park to play yesterday.

Bill:

Ok, yesterday at the park.


When the ice cream man pulled over, all of the kids wanted an ice cream.

I said no at first because I didn't want to ruin their dinners.

Everyone ran off to play except Kade.

He stuck around until everyone was gone.
He walks up to me and says, "gotta dollar?"

I say no.

11:29amMe

LMAO!

11:29amWilliam

He says, "whAt , did you forget your wallet?"

I say no.

He says," are you sure?"

I say yes.

11:30amMe

I can't stop smiling already - I can hear his voice.

11:30amWilliam

He says," can we check the car?"

I'm cracking up inside at this point.

I say no.

He says, "let's check your wallet, maybe you forgot that you put a dollar in there."

11:32amMe

hahahahahahahahaha

11:32amWilliam

I say ok and I open my wallet and look in and say nope, no dollar.

He says, "let me look."

11:33amMe

Pushy little guy isn't he? LMAO!!!!!

11:33amWilliam

I couldn't help it, that's when I called and made sure it was ok to get them some ice cream.

11:33amMe

welcome to my world!

I am laughing SO hard.

I have to copy and blog this WHOLE thing.

11:33amWilliam

It was the funniest thing.

11:34amMe

I have to call and read it to Robert

11:34amWilliam

I knew you would want to.

What's funny was the rhythm that he used in asking.

He would pause for a little while between questions and act like he was playing with the sand.

11:36amMe

I am seriously crying I'm laughing so hard

I just tried to read it to Robert but was laughing so hard I had to hang up.

11:36amWilliam

I told Mandy that I got bullied by a 5 year old.

Some catch up -

Jack is not ready for baseball - he just likes saying he's on a team. Hopefully it wont be a major breakdown tomorrow night when he doesn't practice.
Kyla has taken his place.

She has chosen baseball over dance for now ( I'm quite pleased with this decision, the whole 'dance' thing, was cute and all - but just not her fortay I'm afraid )

Robert is still on disability, from the motorcycle accident - and 90% of his body is healed and back to normal. The other 10% is causing him a lot of pain. He's a stubborn man and not doing what I want him to do to rectify the discomfort... but I wont get started on that. I need him to go back to work, him being home for lengthy amounts of time has so many high points, but not enough for me to enjoy it long term. October 18th-ish, is his scheduled return date.

We have had some rough mornings getting Kade up and out of bed for school. We have had some GREAT mornings of getting Kade up and out of bed for school. One of the worst days was rectified by me staying to help out in his class for about 2 hours. Thank god for my flexible job.

Kyla is really enjoying school, however told me today, that she is the "slowest one in the class" and "at the bottom of the reading chart." She didn't say it in a stress filled way, more in a matter of fact way. I figured out a way to get some details without focusing on it being negative and it sounds like it's taking her longer to get the daily work done in order to give her free time to read to get up the "reading chart." Strange, because she does her homework so quickly. I can't wait to have some time with her teacher. It's hard for me to just trust the system.

On that same note, I really enjoyed being in Kade's class the other day, it gave me a new understanding of Kade's teacher ( whom I previously had doubts about. ) I'm pleased with where he is.

I've had writers block for quite some time, so I'm writing this mainly just for the actual process of putting my own words onto paper ( or more appropriately, typing them onto screen. )

I'm looking forward to starting a Yogalates class with Becky and Mandy on Thursday night's next week! Something for me! YAY!

School makes time go by so quickly, I feel like I blink and I miss something.

The cat's out of the bag... ( and a booger )

Well so much for Kyla's teacher not knowing that she skipped kindergarten...

I asked Kyla today if her teacher knows that she is so young.
"Yep!" she said.

How did you tell her? was my next question.
Kyla exlained it to me like this:

She asked us all how old we were. When I said I was 6 years old, she was surprised and said: "WOW, your young!?" She looked confused mom, so I said - "well I skipped kindergarten that's why." ( with a very matter of fact look on her face )

I of course had to find out what the response to this was because I'm afraid that kids will be mean to her when they find out. So... I said - did she say anything after that?

Kyla replied saying: Yep, she said: "you can't skip kindergarten!" but she was totally kidding mom, cause she said: "Just kidding" Then she asked me why I skipped.

Then Kyla just stopped, totally left me hanging, and finished another couple of pages of homework. Me not being able to take it anymore said: WELL..... what did you say when she asked you why? Kyla tilted her head a little and said: " I said; because it was just too easy " with a shrug of her shoulders. And with that, the conversation was over. :( Apparently it's not nearly as big of a deal to Kyla as it is to me.

I must also get in writing so I can tease her later that she was so mad that it took two weeks of school before she got any homework. Now that she has gotten a packet and has a week to do it, she wants to do it all in 1 or 2 days. "just one more page mom!" Seriously, who's kid IS THIS?

The good thing is, I think it helps Kade do his homework seeing Kyla want to do hers. Granted he is not jumping at the opportunity to do page after page after page, and he wants to do the least amount required, but... he's still doing it. Thankfully.

Speaking of Kade and referencing the title of this post - he told us today that he got a check mark next to his name. He said that he had to sit at a table and didn't get to play with the toys today. After several variations of the same question we discovered that she thought he threw something, but in fact he had picked a booger out of his nose and was holding his finger up to motion that he needs a tissue. LMAO. He was completely serious. Not embarrassed or anything at this fact. He wasn't trying to be gross, just stating what happened. I still can't stop giggling about this. What I can't figure out is why he didn't attempt to tell her that he wasn't throwing anything so he could try to play with toys - but I'm almost willing to bet it's because she wouldn't have given him the time of day anyway. ( that's the impression I get from her... but that's a whole other post )

:(

I have to get in writing that I am having a very very very very very very very hard time with Kade right now.

Kade has always been rough, and I've tried to be as light hearted as possible and focus on all of the good things. I will continue to do so, but I have to get out that over the last few weeks, I have been severely struggling with being his parent.

I have a significant fear of what is to come and that I wont be able to handle it.

I cry from how he hurts my heart frequently, and no amount of rationalization of the fact that he's just a "5 yr old boy" can take away the pain when the words are being said.

I know that all kids say mean things to parents, and I get it from Kyla and Jack a normal amount of times as well. When Kade says it however, it's heart wrenching. It's different.

When I read back on this, I'll know exactly what I mean by different, and I hope by the time I read this that we will have come up with something that improves our situation by at least 50%.

I'm not doing good.

My favorite moment of the week.

Yesterday afternoon I decided to go through a 3 drawer plastic bin that I have in our craft room. The bin's contents are all of the kids artwork, crafts, creative things they do, and homework from about a year's time. I needed to clean out the past year's items to make room for the new millions of papers that would be brought home through out the upcoming year.

Organization is right up Kade's alley, so I solicited his help to get it done and to sneak in some time with him. I was quite impressed with how he agreed to throw away all pictures that were simply just coloring book pages, and keep the pages where he was learning something and / or following directions. We got through is drawer and Jack's drawer without incident and we both felt quite accomplished!

Now it came to do Kyla's drawer. Keep in mind, Kyla sat back quiety and observed the other 2 bins, while sometimes throwing in an occasional: " awh, look at how cute that picture is! " Kade however, was not so inclined to sit back and just allow Kyla to actually organize something without him. He physically looked pained when he was asked to do so. Thankfully Kyla tired of doing it quickly ( as she does with most chore type activities ) and delegated to Kade to help place the papers into the appropriate stacks of keep, toss, and "room 35 work."

Fast forward about half way through the bin and we find this:


If you look closely at the top, you'll see that Kade's name is the ONLY name that has a sad face and a NO next to it. He noticed this right away and questioned Kyla: " why would you have a No and a sad face next to JUST MY NAME?" Very very vulnerable-like he was. She said, " Oh Kade, this was a really long time ago and I was very mad at you. " Kade responded with an immediate: "well then it definitely goes in the toss pile." ( with a very genuine sad face that I rarely see .. most sad faces are manipulative and evil ) Kyla said: "No way Kade, I was just mad, I was like 4 or something." Kade says: "well then I'm going to rip it up. You just can not keep that. I can't let you keep it." I figure it's about time to chime in, so I suggest: "how about if Kyla marks out the No and puts a yes?" He reluctently agreed, but he did. So Kyla takes a pencil and markes out the No and puts a yes and says; "Oh, I guess I should make a happy face too right?" Kade takes a deep breath and feels better - so much better he adds: "why don't you go ahead and add; " and I love my brother Kade" too right away. " All 3 of us instantly cracked up.